Thank you so much for writing this, Jeremy. I was diagnosed just shy of my 55th birthday, much to my surprise. Prior, I *knew* there was something wrong with me, and even years of therapy didn’t turn over that particular stone. Turns out I adapted so effectively at seeming normal that I was able to hide the worst of my Bad Time damage that I didn’t want revealed. Not that that helped with the shame... at all, ever. Still doesn’t. And your description of the rolling Bad Time anxiety really hits home. Fucking hell.
Thank you for your vulnerability. This article has been painful for me to read. I've always hoped that something would help me "un-have EFI," not for my sake... but for the sake of those who love me so selflessly. One of those people sent me this article... and I'm so thankful for your work.
What a great post, thank you! I have EFI, was diagnosed years ago and somehow moved to other issues (as you said living in Bad Times accumulates issues), but yeah, should think about basics too. Will come back to this post numerous times, I think. Whoof, hard ...
Jeremy... 47yo here and this was the greatest thing I've read in application to myself (and we both know how much reading that probably entailed). Usually the info on the internet is too broad that it is daunting to sift, or so narrow that it excludes me. Where do you go for support?
Thank you so much for writing this, Jeremy. I was diagnosed just shy of my 55th birthday, much to my surprise. Prior, I *knew* there was something wrong with me, and even years of therapy didn’t turn over that particular stone. Turns out I adapted so effectively at seeming normal that I was able to hide the worst of my Bad Time damage that I didn’t want revealed. Not that that helped with the shame... at all, ever. Still doesn’t. And your description of the rolling Bad Time anxiety really hits home. Fucking hell.
Thank you for your vulnerability. This article has been painful for me to read. I've always hoped that something would help me "un-have EFI," not for my sake... but for the sake of those who love me so selflessly. One of those people sent me this article... and I'm so thankful for your work.
What a great post, thank you! I have EFI, was diagnosed years ago and somehow moved to other issues (as you said living in Bad Times accumulates issues), but yeah, should think about basics too. Will come back to this post numerous times, I think. Whoof, hard ...
Jeremy... 47yo here and this was the greatest thing I've read in application to myself (and we both know how much reading that probably entailed). Usually the info on the internet is too broad that it is daunting to sift, or so narrow that it excludes me. Where do you go for support?